Always Say Yes To A Boat
If there’s one rule I try to live by in life, and dating, it’s “always say yes to a boat”.
I’ve Found It Hard To Write
Oct-2018 I’ve found it hard to write because five years after my divorce papers were signed, I’m still single. I’ve found it hard to write because it's been difficult to find the humour, and the silver linings, and the lessons [...]
Jesus Take The Wheel
I like to think I make good decisions. Ok, well I like to think I make decisions. But do you ever question your decision making ability? And wonder what the hell you were thinking when you decided on something?
Sex, Brunch & First Dates
You know those first dates when you talk about children, anal sex and sex clubs? Yeah, me neither... until I met Ukrainian Race Car Driver.
The Power of No
At what point in matching with someone on a dating app do you give up your right to say no? At what point when you’re chatting with someone over text do you give up your right to say no? At what point after you’ve met up with someone in real life do you give up your right to say no?
The Doctor Will See You Now
In a summer where I was finding no shortage of dates or online dating app matches with a variety of success, his dating profile pictures were almost too immaculate. His response to my first Bumble message too smooth. His Instagram too curated. He was either a catfish or a douchebag.
Pasta And Appendages
We’ve talked about it before - someone being great on paper but then it not working out in real life. But what about being great on paper AND being great in text and then there being zero spark in person? How is that possible? Do people have ghost (text) writers?!
Can I Go Now, Sir?
You know when you make plans and they seem like a good idea at the time, but then when the time comes you realise you’re tired and you’d rather stay in? But you go and figure you’ll just cut the night short but then the guy you’re out with attempts to bargain with you to make you stay out and chooses to lecture you on how much you’ll regret it if you go home?
Accepting Defeat
It had been a rocky start to the year - with the end of Filipeen, the mess with Malaysian Persuasion and then the… I don’t even know what with English Kiwi Naval Officer. I wasn’t loving the end to what had otherwise been an incredible year of getting back into dating and fully feeling empowered and in charge of myself again.
Gone Fishing… Catfishing
Trusting your gut is all well and good but how do you employ that strategy when the very nature of dating, particularly online dating, is that of having to take things at face value? Where does blind faith stop and healthy suspicion take over? When should you trust and when should you question? In other words, how do you know when you’re being catfished?
That Age Old Question
As if age hadn’t been a hot topic after the Billy The Kid incident, after dating two 25 year old’s - yes at the same time, though both in varying degrees of seriousness - it was once again at the forefront of my mind.
Block, Delete, Repeat – Part 3 of 3
When honesty is your only policy and you’re put on the spot by the guy you’re dating asking if you’re sleeping with anyone else, what do you do?